Thanks for the compliment sparks! It hasn't been easy, but it has been necessary.
I think the biggest thing that has helped me detach is that, back when all this began to fall apart, I made a conscious decision that I was not going to be a victim or suffer from victim's mentality, thereby letting someone else determine how I feel or react.
Every time I was down or began feeling sorry for myself, I reminded myself that I am not a victim and, like it or not, I'm part of this equation. As a result, I also have a part to play in the outcome of this whole thing. It opened my eyes to two futures - one with WAW, one w/o. Both are acceptable as I win either way, as I will be a better man in the end.
This is a tough thing we are all doing here. I continually hope for the best while I prepare for the worst. The one thing I feel is most important is I don't let it define who I am as a husband, a father, a man, or a person in general.
This ^^^ is a great attitude to have, and a great way to DB!
