KM

I look at this way. All the different tools you use are for your benefit and not your W's.

Ask youself some questions

Does constant contact with your W help you or hurt you?

Do you accomplish anything?

Does it help your sitch?

Why do you want to have contact with your W?

Now just like 9 you have kids together so you going dark will never really be fully accomplished and it shouldn't.

I am considering going dark on my XW but not as a means of getting her attention but because at this point after the D it has become painful to talk to her. I am doing it for me and my healing process


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