Is there an om? How do you progress

[facingdivorce]

Hi paper, i have been working on my boundaries and how far I can take this.

I think i could forgive her, but it depends how long it goes on for. At some point all the lies and manipulation would just get too deep for me. I dont have a time for that, I think it is something I would feel and know.

Being manipulated to look after the kids, so she can have the affair ! Thats a boundary for me. I wont enable the affair in any way, I want them to have a dose of day to day realities, to cool the infatuation.

Her problems are her problems, not mine , thats a clear boundary for me.
so stop trying to get me to do things that resolves or sorts them out, its time you learnt to do them or figure out how to solve them, thats what being single is all about. No more cake eating thanks.

I have definately been in waiting mode and that has been a very difficult experience and lesson for me, as you watch the person you love, flush away everything you have built together.

It just feels so overwhelming, my head spins and i worry that i will make wrong decisions that will have far reaching consequences for all of us.

Thanks for listening!