What to do next

[JustStunned]

Hi, BeingMe, Sandi2 and mykarma, Thank You for the responses. I appreciate the time everyone takes to follow this thread.

In an earlier thread I posted a comment W made about visiting with her Aunt to prevent me from talking her out of her decision. It did not make much sense to me then. The women W was; would not easily back away from a decision made so firmly. While I do not always recognize the person W is, I have no expectation anything I say or do will dissuade her.

I am getting by. I know a good time and this isn’t it. However, I am making lemonade, and trying to sweeten it just a little.
Maybe I will find some Vodka this weekend, lemon drops anyone?

Sandi2, I follow some of the same threads as you do. Your comments, and suggestion are generally spot on. Thank you for sticking with this group.

Mykarma, the way I see this is I have 4 choices.

1. eat a round, not going to happen.

2. curl up in a corner with a box of tissues, tried that, it was not productive and tissues got expensive.

3. Passively wait for this to get better, which is an awful lot like choice 2.

4. Take charge of my sitch and all aspects of it that I can control. I have always marveled how the general orders for sentries can be applied to life in general. I am taking the 4th choice. Although I used a few tissues this weekend.

I think on some levels it is human nature to want what you don’t have. For the five days between bomb and W moving out I just wished we could be separated while I gathered myself. Now that I have I wish we were more closely connected. Of course my biggest wish is to use the WABAC with Mr. Peabody and Sherman. I’d go back to when our Son announced his decision to enlist and get W into IC.

Journaling: Her family has divided into two camps, one actively supporting her position and the other passively supporting both of us. Easter was an interesting holiday. I helped prepare dinner and ate with portions of my family that could attend. She celebrated with her active support group, and the passive supporters had a separate gathering sharing videos, photos and comments through FB passivly with both of us. Thanksgiving and Christmas should be interesting.

I have another realtor coming by the house on Wednesday. I found a leak near the chimney chase. It is probably a flashing and relatively easy to repair, but it just points out how the roofing I installed 21 yrs ago need to be replaced. It never rains it pours, pardon the pun. I need to find the humor

Today is mom’s 84th B-Day. My sister is in town and my after work time will be filled for the rest of this week. I will get on the board and contribute when I can, but I need the emotional support my sister and mother can give.