18 Wheels and a Dozen Roses

[AJM80]

I don't know that I agree with guys. I kind of feel like agreeing to stay married for 18 more years, then assuming 1) No cheating, 2) we wouldn't actually divorce when the time came, and 3)that it could be a healthy, functional relationship/set a good example for the kids is a bad idea. He's only toying with the idea..maybe I would feel differently if it sounded like any real commitment was being offered. In our situation, he didn't value me/our kids the way he should (or even himself), so I think making us cheaper/easier to obtain is counter to that goal.

@Kaffe - I interrupted him and times and was not always a good listener, I also didn't always appreciate what he was going through, I was angry/stressed/felt unappreciated/etc. HOWEVER (huge here)- I didn't cheat on him, I didn't engage in risky behavior and essentially steal family money to fund it and I didn't abandon my spouse, baby girl, and newborn son. What did I do? I worked 50+ hours a week, paying for a full time nanny and cutting what student loans would have been by half, I was pregnant and had a 18 month old, I tried to initiate convo/sex/time together. He failed, he really did. He and I both know it. We have 2 issues - 1) his selfishness/lack of maturity/possible depression/mental health issues and 2) our joint failure to put our relationship 1st post baby 1/appreciate each other. I've done a great deal of thinking @ the 2nd issue and have made some apologies and changes accordingly. (I'm sure a little anger comes through - not at your comment- more at situation/H). I really was a pretty decent wife and friend.