Good consult w/Jody; that was quite pleasant actually. Didn't quite answer all the questions I wanted to ask (ran out of time) but good to know I was on the right track with most behaviours and just a bit off on a few others.
This next week-and-a-half separation may be good (bit nervous as we have a MC session the day she leaves and sometimes those can be rough--don't want her to leave on a bad note). I'm still trying to avoid a long-term separation if possible.
Jody's three recommendations in my situation were:
1) Let her know I 'get it' (validate, give compliments ("hey, that's impressive") rather than praise ("I'm so proud of you"), and have more fun (confirming what I have already noticed: "Hey, you wanna do X?" is MUCH LESS EFFECTIVE than "Hey, I'm gonna go do X, want to come along?" and then doing it whether or not W does).
2) Act like this time of "just being friends" is good for both of us ("breathing space"). Do things together, but NOT romantic and NOT as "dates". Mixed feelings on this since she also gives "I want to be seduced" vibes sometimes, but we'll press with it and see what happens.
3) GAL stuff, with a focus on initiating social contact (with friends, coworkers, etc), aiming to build social confidence. Ha, this one is really tough for me! But also one of the biggest things I can learn to do... IF I can do it! Takes a surprising amount of effort for me.
We'll see, though--as mentioned she's leaving for about 10 days this Wednesday which will give me some opportunity to practice GAL stuff on my own. Could be fun, could be scary--or both!
