StillLearning: <tired_soldier_voice>nah, man... I don't do that stuff any more</tired_soldier_voice>. The pilot lifestyle turned out to be a big stressor for me and W actually, one of the reasons I left it (and left the career to follow W... only to rejoin when she couldn't/wouldn't get a job... TWICE, which is why I get very frustrated when she talks about how constraining my career has been for her).
However, I have tried to get her doing SCUBA, to absolutely no avail. Or indoor skydiving, to absolutely no avail. Or ANYTHING. Which is why her big complaint that I "don't tempt her to adventure" is so frustrating.
She says that I have "too much impact on her", and it's frustrating... like when she showed interest in doing amateur stage acting and I said "aw, man, I'd be so jealous if you got a good part"--which was meant as admiration and which she instead took as "YOU MUST NOT DO THIS", stopped pursuing it, and then held it against me for years without telling me. Or when she wanted to go on trips and I said I would miss her, which she then interpreted as me saying she couldn't do it, and then resented me for it. Um, sorry, I thought missing your life partner when she was away was a good thing? It didn't mean she couldn't go... what was I supposed to say, "oh thank god you're getting out of here for a while"?
No idea where she is in the M right now. Very fun weekend and still no spark that I can see, though it was great to see her laughing and having fun. My lamish attempts at flirtation and compliments seem to vanish into a black hole, though.
