Positively moving forward

[awest1217]

Last weekend was fun. It was relaxing...I got a lot of work done...and I looked good on Easter with H going to the Easter service to watch S sing. I always enjoy looking nice to make H remember what he has left.

The only downside was S and H. H was supposed to have S Friday to Saturday then Sunday afternoon. It was a joke. S woke up Friday morning at 6:30am so I told H this to make sure S gets a nap. H doesn't make S take a nap and at 5 pm is calling me because S wants something for dinner and H can't figure out what it is. H tells S while I am on speaker phone if he doesn't eat then they can't play. I immediately go in mom mode and tell H to take me off speaker phone and tell him that all S talks about is playing with H and taking that away from him for not eating is going to be detrimental. H lets me know that when S is with him he doesn't eat at all. Maybe a bite here or there, but that is it because all he wants to do is play, and I let him know that is the reality he has made, but punishing him for not eating is only going to do more harm and he should instead have fun at dinner.

2 hours later H calls again because S has been crying for 40 minutes that he wants to come home. He asks me what he should do. I tell him I don't know because I don't know why S is crying or what happened. H brings S home and S is home for about 40 minutes and H takes him back after I have calmed S down and done all the work. Come to find out S was upset about H and H saying no playing until he eats dinner, like I had thought. He felt H was mad at him.

Saturday I text to check on S, and ask to make sure H was still dropping S off at 8 pm instead of 7pm like normal. H said he wants to drop off at 7 pm because he doesn't feel well and has a migraine...that made me mad because I am S's mom whether I am sick, healthy, happy, sad, mad, etc.

Then Sunday H comes to church and is actually there early. My family and friends said hi to him and was nice which was huge, but part of me really wants H to get put in his place by someone. I know that isn't the right thing to do, but it would be nice. H picks up S at 3 pm and I can tell he still doesn't feel well and right away gets on S for doing something that H was taking the wrong way and then telling S to take his suit off so he could play. I tell H if S wants to wear his suit I don't care, it is just clothes and he never gets really messy so no problem. When H dropped off, he was acting mad and upset. I don't know if it was the migraine or regret. Either way not my problem. I still had fun! Oh and H's family gave S a huge bag full of junk that S doesn't need or will ever use, which to me is stupid. I got S three small things, and my parents got him one toy. H's parents get him 6 or 7 small chincy gifts that he won't ever use and are either clothes that are too big or toys that are too young.

HOnestly though, a really good weekend. I just wish H would decide to either be a parent or not because he says he wants extra time with him and spend like 3 or 4 days with him at a time, but he has only done two nights in a row twice. As always the words don't match the actions. H also probably wanted to have S leave early because OW's birthday is today and so she was probably wanting to spend time with H and well...it was H's weekend with S so she was probably jealous, and soon H will have to decide between OW and S.