Thanks for the kudos! I don't know that I deserve them though as I am just mucking through this as I go. Half the time I don't know if I am coming or going =) I have been in your situation (except my H had an OW). I know what it's like to live in the same house and feel so far away!! I finally got really tired of it and told him that I thought it was best that he moved out. In a lot of ways it has been really good for us, but it has been really really hard on our D. She just does not understand why her Daddy doesn't come home because I am feeling better and like myself again. I would never tell her about OW...ugh - the thought of that makes my shiver. She could never understand that at all!!!!
The thing that has worked the best for me through all of this is that I have focused on ME and tried to change the things about me that I do not like. I spent 7 months trying to tell my H that he needed to change and everything got progressively worse. However, when I started to change things about myself, he started to change things about himself as well. He is still leery of my changes and he says that he is just waiting for things to fall apart again, but I know that they will not and for now...that's enough.
My heart goes out to you, but listen to the folks that are posting on your wall. They give excellent advice and they have been there and done/doing that! I'll keep checking in on you to see how things are going!! Keep your chin up =)
Me: 31 H: 30 Kids: D9 Together almost 12 years Married almost 5 years EA began: 8/10 Separated: 3/11
