It's not about dwelling on all the things you could have done differently. It's about figuring out who you are and who she is. About being the best version of yourself that you can, inspiring her to do the same, getting her to miss what you had, have hope for what could be.
We're solution oriented here. Take the feedback from the past and use it constructively or get it out of your head. Don't let it drag you down. Take what she says with a grain of salt.
Thanks, AJ. I do think it is very important to keep a balance here. I would be naive to think that everything that she is saying is bs. I am not perfect. There are some problems that we have had that I truly did not believe they were so critical. I do find value in listening to her interpretation of my fault's in our M. I may not believe all of them, but at least it gives me perspective on what is important to her right now.
I will keep validating her and will actively listen. If her biggest pain points are feeling unequal/unheard/caged, one of the best things I can do is be a great listener right now.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
