Is there an om? How do you progress

[facingdivorce]

yes sorting out the finances, such as joint bank accounts, mortgages etc is tricky, because I absolutely need to do it, yet it is a big emotional trigger. I havent split up the joint bank account yet, but she is single handly trying to revive the economy with her spending spree.I let it slide for the first coupleof months as I thought a bit of retail therapy is fine ( I now live like a frugal monk in balance..) But you have to draw the line.

Every time I go to the account I expect it to be cleaned out, i know that is paranoid, but hey , sanity and logic left a couple of months ago. But if i can equitably sort that out and agree a structured approach to children access, then I feel I can bunker down and see what happens. I wont go further on the divorce proceedings.

I think also I send a clear message to her that I am not a doormat. TREAT ME WITH RESPECT.At the same time , i want to do what is right and not push her away, but I feel I am on eggshells in this area.

thanks for the support and all the advice