I am actually on your side for quitting your job. I thought the time line to move away was too pressuring. I think this will ease some of that pressure and allow you and H to take some more baby steps forward.
I see the convo about staying together for the kids maybe a little differently then most. It may not be getting together for all the right reasons (love and commitment to M), but I do think the renewed M gives the chance to really work on the M. If your H is committed, then the two of you can begin really practicing good M skills. Maybe marriage counseling or a marriage retreat. Even reading some good relationship books together.
So I see at as more of a way to have him come back into the family but only if there is dedication for working on improving your M. I see you being dedicated. I hope he commits as well.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
