Yeah--curiously, though, I'm in the situation where she seems to believe I *am* quality and has said this to our MC, me, etc ("he's a great guy... I would write a recommendation letter for him to any other woman in the world"). Her take is that she doesn't think SHE should ever be married--that she "is too much affected by my opinions" and that being married to someone else at all mean she will try to suppress her own personality and dreams.
And, of course, she just views me as a friend now. Hm.
So I have to flirt with her without pursuing her while simultaneously convincing her that marriage offers more freedom and options, not less, while both demonstrating my high value and making her feel an equal. Simple
Had actually a really fun day with her today, spending easter at an arcade playing video games together (her idea!). We had a blast, now going to spend the evening watching movies and such. It was really fun... but still my clumsy efforts at flirting fall on deaf ears, and she still switches between "I feel like I have to run, to get out NOW NOW NOW" and "well, I'd really like to get the new windows in before winter hits." I'm getting rollercoaster backlash on a daily basis
And all told, I'm doing really well "for myself". She's leaving for a week or two on Wednesday, and I think I'm going to be just fine... I'll have more trouble if we decide she's leaving for the whole summer, but one thing at a time, one thing at a time...
