Is there an om? How do you progress

[facingdivorce]

Gb90, thanks so much , the problem when you are trying to work these things out on your own, is how fuzzy your thinking becomes.

Whilst I hold hope that at some point my wife will recognise what she is doing , and we can work on reconciliation, i need to focus on the kids and myself. I dont need to prove the om, and I really wish i could put this piece behind me, as I have spent way too much time, energy thinking about it....

Your right about the mlc, it all seems to fit and my counsellor seems to think so as well. For her all the pressure of long work hours, being away from kids, trying to balance everything, just got too much.

So with LC then, i will not raise her affair any more ( i wanted to burst the bubble she is in, but yr right, the last thing i want to do is drive her to him)

I have to sort out finances though and interim custody arrangements in a structured way, because i need to protect the kids and myself, and she is being reckless with money. Perhaps the realities sink in for her as we sort that. I am not pushing for divorce with her, though i have to be careful that these things im doing dont set that off, because to me it seems to snowball rapidly once the lawyers get into our bank accounts.

Thanks for the really timely advice, it is deeply appreciated.