Although she denied it, I do believe that it had progressed to a PA. I can accept this as part of me does acknowledge that I was the cause of it. Had I been there for my wife and been a nicer person all around she never would have looked at another man. For me the EA was more painful than if there was a PA.
I also believe that the PA if it existed is now gone. She really doesn't have the opportunity to be with him. Also, she has stopped wearing her sexy underwear to work and stopped buying Cosmopolitan magazine.
I can accept all of the above, but I can't accept it continuing. I do like your idea about me having an OW. There is a single lady that I know through work. We have known each other for about 2 years and recently we have gone out for lunch quite a few times. We try to get together at least once per month. She is attractive, smart and interested in me. She is curious about my marital status but I havn't discussed to much of it with her. I really like her and our lunches are very enjoyable. Much better than anytime I spend with my wife. Makes me understand why my wife got involved with OM.
I do need to figure out what my strategy and next steps are depending upon her response. Thanks again for your input. It is very timely!
