Thank you for taking the time to review my threads and providing me with some great insight. I am about to leave shortly to go and pickup my wife at the airport. I have a great 10 days with my kids and part of me is sad that she is coming back.
These past 10 days have been a great break from the day to day pain of the past 18 months. I really appreciate your comments and they have given me a lot to think about.
I am really struggling with what to do about the OM. I agree that my actions drove her to him. On the otherhand it has been over a year and half since the old me has left. She no longer has any reason to keep the affair going because of my actions. The contact continues because she wants it to.
I think I may just ask her the status of the EA and let her know that I am aware it is continuing. I will not give her an ultimatum, I will simply state that what she is doing is wrong and disrespectful.
The other option is to just keep plugging along. Part of me believes that she has not made any effort to return to the marriage is because the OM is still lurking in the background, providing a nice fantasy world vs the harsh and painful reality of trying to rebuild a marriage.
I am going to re-read your post and think this through more carefully. Once again, thank you for taking the time to provide me with some great advice and insight.
