Sorry if I made it sound like GAL is strictly for her. It is not. GAL is supposed to get you through this hard time, but has the nice second order effect of getting their attention. As stated before don't be obvious!!! The best way of doing that is truly doing it for yourself.
Here are a couple of ideas.
1. Don't have facebook? Consider getting one it is a great social tool and you will find yourself making a lot of new friends. Just one warning don't add her. This may be seen as pursuing. Let her instead stumble upon your profile through your shared friend network. Also don't use it as your platform for feeling sorry for yourself, use it as a place to show the world how great you are. She might notice.
2. Do GAL for real. You need distraction you need fun. The attitude you get from it will show through. Even if you are just working on divorce logistics a good attitude rather than a bad one will be noticed by her. "you seem upbeat today, oh I just came back from surfing....."
3. Show her you don't need her to be happy!!! Counterintuitive I know, but remember she blames you for all her unhappiness and probably thinks you are an unchangeable miserable person. Show her you are happy and she will start doubting her old assumptions.
4. Help her expedite the divorce. I know more counterintuitive stuff. Ok memorize this line: "I wish it wouldn't turn out this way, but if you think this is the best for the both of us I will help you out as much as I can." She might ask "well what do you think". You can reply with: "Well it's not what I want, but I know I will do well without you." This needs to be your mantra. It accomplishes a couple of things. A. It doesn't make you look hopeless and miserable WAW don't find this attractive. B. It will change her way of looking at you. C. It will help you accept that her decisions are beyond your control and that YOU don't need her to be happy. She needs to understand this, but most importantly you do too!!! D. It will make her think "maybe it's me not him" many WAW will blame everything on you they need to believe that you are the source of all the problems to enable their flight. Show her you don't have problems, she will most likely have some of her own and it will make you more attractive.
Ok so I just gave you all this advice meant to help you get her back. I did so because I know that is your main motivation, but guess what? Unless you do this for yourself she will never notice. DB is not a checklist it's about attitude. If you just go through the motions to get her back she will notice that and resent you more for it. You have very little chance at interaction so you need to come off as your best during these chances with a bright positive attitude. GAL will greatly help, but if you don't mean it she will see right through you.
I think of DB as a great self improvement program that as a secondary effect may save your M. I hope that wasn't preachy or redundant
