Hos... you are a smart man. I'm enjoying the dialogue between you and gb90. Great stuff.
So... detach.
You are very involved in the analysis of your M and W. This is good stuff and enlightening. As other's would say around here... how's that workin' for you?
I found that detaching did not change my love for my W. So no fear. What it did, was allowed me (or caused me?) to go through the emotions that needed to happen, in order for me to move forward. I still am M and will be so unless the future provides otherwise. And I will continue to DB in a way that effects positive change in myself.
And with all the analysis and journaling you are doing here, and vent... vent HERE, where it's safe. You can do as sandi says, "Listen to her carefully."
Reading DB and DR and other resources are great. Even better is doing the work sheets! Create a plan. Plan the work and work the plan... man...!
