Welcome aboard. Don't give up if you don't receive a lot of replies over the holiday weekend. There is more traffic during the weekdays.
I'm so sorry you find yourself in the boat with a lot of couples these days. So much stress on couples to "have it all", and in most cases....it's just trying to survive in the world.
Your W might be experiencing some midlife crises, IDK. It was the statement about her life being half over that got my attention. We do know two things.....she has walked away and she is in emotional crises.
Do you know if she is hanging out with new friends? Has there been a change in her appearance (more youthful, sexy clothes), coloring her hair, acting like a teenager? Has she given up old friends to hang out with younger one?
Another stresser to many M these days is the modern social network. Was she keeping her cell phone glued to her body? Did she take calls and leave the room to talk? What about TM's? And FB is a huge problem with M troubles b/c the S can locate an "old high school BF" or new ones.
Lots of questions, but the more you can tell us, the more we may be able to help.
Please post often, and don't give up.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
