Really? B/c it sounds to me like you've already made up your mind. As with a lot of LBH's before you, you're stating all the reasons why you need or want to do something to recognize the anniversary--based on who you are and not based on the facts of the stitch.
As you said, no one size fits all. My suggestion is that you do nothing and you say nothing.
I don't tell everyone this b/c I know about those one sizes, also. But here's the reason I'm telling you; it would be a huge 180 b/c you said it's so unlike you. Don't you realize that the anniversary will be much more noticed if you don't follow the patterns as in the past? Don't you realize that she KNOWS it's the date of her wedding anniversary and she is dreading it like you couldn't believe? She just wants it to pass like an ordinary day.
Yes, you know her best, but I see the same words I've seen too many times on this board. It is LBH pursuit trying to sound justified. Maybe you don't realize that you have expectations......but it's right there in your post.
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However if I invite her to dinner, and get the babysitter, she is likely to come and we would have a nice time.
You want to pay special attention to the anniversary, and in your heart, you are hoping she will respond in a positive way.
Sometimes I suggest just a simple card be given. But in other cases, the LBH might as well bring out the wedding pictures and watch the video of the vows taken.
If you are going to be in the LRT, then work it. If you want to portray a clingy H who is hanging onto memories of the wedding day.....then apply the pressure.
But, that's JMHO and I'm not trying to make you feel rotten. Just trying to give VP from WAW.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
