Punkin, dont get ahead of yourself worrying about how h will be post divorce.
Some remain hostile and angry, some realize to some extent that they are still not happy, some go away completely. Either way, there is nothing you can do about it.
Try to enjoy the holiday and put all this stuff on the backburner for right now.
Punkin, Brooklyn is right, there's nothing you can do about how your h will be post divorce. It took my xh almost 3 years post divorce to settle down into a human being again and now it's the just the game playing.
He is the only one that can change the way he views life for himself. You've done all you can and now it's up to him and the man upstairs.
Enjoy Easter w/your family and know that you've done all you can do.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Hey Punkin, just want you to know I'm thinking of you!! Hope you're having a good day today.
M45 Bomb 6/09; EA 6/10; Divorced 1/11 Proud single mom of 7 little feline girls and one little feline boy "Fall down 53 times. Get up 54." -- Zen saying
Well, a new twist. Checked my old email account and find that someone tried to break into it yesterday. Evidently used up their number of tries, and the account locked down for 24 hours. Wonder who that was???
Why won't this woman leave me the he!! alone? The woman is a freak.
Had a pleasant quiet Sunday/Easter otherwise. My DIL's Dad & brother came and ask to fish in my pond. Finished painting my bedroom. Trying to spruce up things for someone to hopefully come look at it to buy. Think I'll check out some antique stores for some old colored glass. A combination of them would look good on the mantle of my yellow bedroom.
Are you sure it is her and not your h? I have this odd feeling that it is your h wanting to see what you've been posting and receiving. The reason I think that is that my xh, during one of the few times he was in my house before really going of the deep end, had some type of command string put in so that he could view emails from his office. Once his mother told me what he had done, I found the string and deleted it.
They may say that they don't want anything to do with us, but they can't let us go. It's very sad to think that they are like this, but it's so true.
Glad you had a nice Easter and I am very sorry about the email nonsense.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I can't say I'm 100% sure of anything, but even through this MLC nonsense, I can't see my STBXH doing that. One, he's not computer savvy in the least, and two, it's been her messing with me on the computer from Day One. Besides that, it was my work Email. What was she going to find out? When we were having our next staff meeting? It's not used for personal use, other than the one time I emailed the H from it back in late November to tell him I had to have surgery, and that we might have to postpone our court date. I've gone to some lengths to assure they do not have my new Email address, although she did email me the message "Who is this?" when my FIL slipped up and included my new one on a joke he sent me. Nothing about it has my name in it.
If the H is having trouble letting me go, he's doing one he!! of a good job hiding it. It seems he just can't wait, other than having to give me any money.
Now that you've explained a bit more, it could very well be her. She's still trying to get into your system to either leave a virus, see what you've been up to or steal your identity and screw up your job situation. These people just thrive on making our lives miserable.
Your h's behavior is very much like my xh's. He couldn't wait to get the divorce over with and now...well, I can't seem to get rid of him and his antics.
Please be careful and take care of yourself. I don't trust him or the OW.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I think she's still checking to see if H and I are communicating. Back with my old Email, she was always using his ID and checking his emails to read what we had written each other. Now that he doesn't have my email, she obviously doesn't trust him as far as she can throw him, nor should she, for that fact. Makes for a dream relationship, doesn't it?
What a wonderful relationship they must have! Trust is right out the window, but then again, why would they trust each other after what they've done? Their house is built on sand and eventually the rocky relationship will erode the sand and down comes the house built on lies. Such a shame! They aren't happy people.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
