The perpetual "now what?"

[ClingingToHope]

May will be two months since I was thrown out. Everyone's story is different, but there is one common thread -- it just takes time.

Think of how much better today you are than you were in week one.

In my case, the lowest point of my adult life was the first Saturday out of the house. My daughters were back at my house playing outside and ... I couldn't be there. I faced a whole day of nothing.

Luckily, I got in touch with a friend. We went golfing. Then another friend called to ask me to play softball. When that was over, I took a sleeping pill.

I was starting to get better at year one, but still had lots of down moments.

At year two, there are some down moments, but very few down days.

The common thought is just focus on today. You have enough to worry about tomorrow when that comes.

A book I read though had a good visualization technique. Imagine your life in five years. What kind of house do you live in. What kind of job do you have. What do you travel on vacation.

You are 29. There are years left to find the right person. In a church group I joined, there was a gorgeous 31 year old that I was just dying to ask out. Through the group, I learned that this is the type of person I want my girls to see me with.

But the divorce wasn't -- and isn't done -- so I told myself to wait in case there were twists ahead.

Of course, someone as pretty and grounded as this lady wasn't going to stay single forever and she started dating a guy and now they are engaged.

I didn't think so before, but there are lots of women out there and it just takes patience and courage to keep trying.