this morning H wants to talk and to be honest this is the first talk we have had that has been so open and honest.
H says he can't explain why he was with OW but knows that something was lacking in himself and he knows he needs to work on that.
in terms of us he has felt just as lonely and unwanted by me. he explained how i'm always asing for love and affection but never give it and he gave me precise examples. i validated and admitted that i hadn't that i had gotten so used to being cold and hardened and now understand why he didn't feel the need to be more affectionate as i felt the same
but we both agreed we loved each other very much and want to grow old together.
so we decide on working to the future the first steps are;
- to find him someone to talk openly too about his feelings and reasons why he had OW
- be more affectionate with each other
- make more time for each other
- for me to GAL and have a PMA
we know more steps will be need and it is going to take time and effort but i believe if we both try we can make this work. Its funny how once he realised i was serious about seperating he become responsive and open.
