ah, a very confused man indeed (your sitch is a bit similar to mine, ex left, was dating, but unhappy, got an L and started to file but never finished, I bought time... eventually after 8 mths he came back, still never happy though, so things went south and we D) Sounds like he might have a MLC, lost, trying to find that something that will fill him up, thinking it is too late (ex kept saying that, but I always told him it wasn't, though I had no idea he had a ow). Hence the ILY, it's a mess he keeps dragging you down with him... did you ever offer to go to MC with him?... and seriously, you do need to see a T, I remember how awful I felt, being in limbo, feeling unwanted, ugly and old and all sorts of crazy.. DO see someone, this isn't easy.
I wouldn't offer the couch if I were you, he made his bed let him lay on it.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
