Unfortunately family, while the most logical choice, are not always the best in terms of support. There is inherent bias, previous relationship influence, tendency to judge more harshly, thinking they "know how you are already" when you have changed, and so on.

I decided to "DB" my family, and her family, and I believe I am better off for it.

I suggest a more objective third party for support, preferably someone who doesnt know W.

Spellfire aka Mike

"Women do not like controlling men. They respect and are attracted to men who control themselves. They ultimately are repelled by men who allow themselves to be controlled." -S&A