Thanks so much Jon, Creed, and Punkin. My problem is I don't want the D at all. But I had to answer to H's lawyer's proposal.
H was just talking about coming home at the end of Jan., then I guess his family got to him and 2 days later I got a text saying the D will not be put on hold, the house is to be sold, it's over. And this is all when I contacted his family by letter and was overly nice, so much that it would make you gag. I did nothing wrong to any of them, they did wrong to me many years ago and I still said nothing but H was so mad he actually ran out of the house straight to his mother's and told her off. They didn't speak for over 12 years and then he made up with them while we were separated. Well, guess what....they are blaming me for him not speaking to them for all of that time.
Over the years I told H he should make up with his mother cause life is too short but he wanted nothing to do with it. So his sister responded through FB (which I didn't know you could do if you weren't friends with that person) and gave it to me big time. Blamed me for keeping him away from them and no matter what I did or said it didn't matter to her. His mother and sister are very very close and always treated the women in the brothers lives like this, nice to their faces and then when they would leave do nothing but talk bad about them.
Someone said, I think it was Punkin, not sure but that H would get tired of them controlling him but I guess not. Still haven't heard a word from him and Easter is coming. I just hope and pray he contacts our D14 at least. I really don't know what to think. Also her Confirmation in church is next Saturday and she did send him a short note saying that she knows they have been fighting lately but she doesn't want him to ever miss anything big in her life again and hopes that he comes. Told him she loves him but never heard back.
He did tell me on the phone when I fully went against DB by calling him at work crying when I received the letter from his lawyer that he wanted the D matter settled.
Just don't get how you go from coming home to back to D again in over 2 months. If you go back and read my thread I believe I posted our conversation on here.
Jon, I posted on your thread. I'm so happy for you. But I don't see any movement at all in my case. There is NC at all. At least you and your W are speaking every night.
That's where I get confused...H claims he isn't with anyone and likes being alone (he hates being alone), I don't know why he told me that, I didn't ask. Then when I told him that a piece of paper doesn't change a person's feelings about the other person he went completely silent. So I have no clue to where I stand now. I'm guessing a D.
I can't stand to say it or even write it because I get so depressed after all of this time. Maybe because we would get along for a while during the past 2 years and then fight and back and forth. ML and see each other every couple of months and that just made it worse on me. I'm still standing but I don't know if God is going to reconcile us or not.
