Thanks! We have separate checking accounts and we just emerged from Chap 13 so there are no assests to split. No kids either although we would probably fight over the dogs. Yea, I agree that right now making myself as attractive as possible is the best thing to do. If it is truly just emotional affair at this point in time then I have the advantage because I am around and the other person is not.
It is also a good point that he has, in his mind, freed himself to pursue other people. To me, one has to be legally divorced prior to beginning a R with OP but not everyone shares my beliefs, including my H so he may feel that he is already free. I never thought of it that way.
Thanks guys for talking me off a ledge. It is hard to do but putting space between finding terrible things out and then acting out is so important. If my H was around when I found most of this out I probably would have done/said something I would have regretted.
It truly is about where your focus is. If it is not on something important and worthwhile then it is bound to be on snooping, worrying, and anger towards your spouse and situation. I would much rather it be on God and good. Now, lets see if I can put it into practice.
Yea, I agree that right now making myself as attractive as possible is the best thing to do. If it is truly just emotional affair at this point in time then I have the advantage because I am around and the other person is not.