Where Does it stop!!

[Jack_Three_Beans]

"2 - accept the status quo and a loveless marriage, wait to die."

This is me.

That blows and you know it. See far below for further comment

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"I believe we get what we give, eventually."

Yea to a point.

...Yes, I'll agree.

However we owe it to ourselves to point out a lack of perceived reciprocation or appreciation.

I have found that telling my wife: "I'm begining to feel like the low man on your totem pole." Seems to work wonders, no fighting words, no accusations, just how I feel.

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"What is her love language?"

She is claiming "Quality Time".

Not sure I fully agree with that.

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What if she doesn't know...

I don't think it is your best interest to listen to what someone says there LL is. You on your own should be able to figure it out. Most people aren't honest enough with themselves to be accurate...and I figure Forrest...maybe look at what she does with the kids, cause you and her are a bit broken.

Her giving you the cold shoulder isn't an Act of Service. : )

It is very likely she might not know.

Ironically we also tend to give the LL we want in return.

Jack.. I have my pony. I understand that you might think I am bitter or angry. But really I am not. I mean if I wanted to go.. I could. If you really look at it close by the time we actually can get a D I will only have 1 child to support. She is now making almost as much as me. I can afford to the "support". And most likely I can find "another". I am not the best looking guy in the world.. but I have to think "someone" would find it attractive.

Oh I really don't think your bitter Forrest.
I wonder a little if your screwing around.

"Give me idea's!"
"Nope that won't work, nope that won't work."

THAT gets a little tiring, but not enough.

I KNOW you could go, but you haven't, so I'm trying hard to figure out what idea's you think will help.

I am just hoping that you have either already tried them, or have given them enough TIME to know that they won't work, and that you aren't dissmissing them out of hand, looking for that magic bullet that doesn't exist.

BTW, I find you attractive. All mopey and obtuse. I just don't bat that way.

It may take a while.. but I am sure that I could manage.

Want to hear something funny? Guess what else would 'take awhile'.

The issue is.. I made a choice and am now 17 years into it.

How do I make "that" attractive enough to evoke a change?

I am reading stuck with that choice.
Resignation...

Man it is your life Forrest, how YOU view it is up to you.
You want to see a pile of silver and look for the dark cloud? I can't stop you.
You want to see the dark cloud and see the silver lining, I also can't stop you.

There is nothing I can do, besides somehow induce amnesia, to make you look at life from a different angle.

Your reality is all about your perception.

You don't like your reality? Change the way you look at it.