I totally agree with you. We are all different and deal with MLC in different ways.
For me, understanding MLC, as much as anyone can, was essential to my progress. When my formerly loving, dependable, responsible H went off the deep end and turned into someone we didn't know, I went looking for answers. After many hours of research I did find what I thought, and still do, happened to him.
The answers that I found allowed me to move forward. To step off the rollercoaster, knowing there is nothing I can do for H except to let him find his way, or not. I have no control of either.
This is just me though, and I fully respect the ways each of us handle this so we can continue to move forward.
