Thank you Cat. I think your friend has some very good advice. If I could interpret what she is saying it is that love that is tangible is one of life's special gifts and that it takes two people who understand that for love to flourish. I'm sure she would say that there were times when it was hard work as well. It sounds like she had a great partner, as she is too, which was the key to their success.
Thank you for saying I deserve better. You certainly do as well. It seems as though finding a good match gets harder as we get older. I am guessing that most people who understand the above are in long term relationships. It has been my experience in dating that there are a lot of people out there plowing through the dating world looking for some prince or princess who will rescue them without stopping to look at themselves and what they need to change to have a chance at finding a good partner.
I would say very few here are innocent. I know I did a lot of things that helped in the down fall of the marriage, as did my ex. So, I have been trying to take my own advice and have been seeing things in myself I should have a long time ago.
As for my ex, she is just hedging her bet I think. Why not? It is a natural human behavior. It is my job to put things to rest on my end.
