The weekend was great. W had the kids on friday night but we spent the entire day saturday and sunday as a family. On sunday we went to a friends b-day party and in the evening we all went to W's parents house. This was the first time since the bomb that I have been over there. They were very nice and at first it was uncomfortable but as it went on it felt like old times.
Had second MC session on Monday and it went very well. We came to the understanding that I need verbal encouragement when it comes to our relationship and W needs less talk and more actions. Since then the W has been more open and we both have been comfortable around each other.
W said that she has decided to give this M another shot and has thought that she would be asking me to come home in next week or so. She said she hadn't told me this cause she didn't want me to pressure her with an exact date. I was happy to hear that but I don't want to get my hopes up too much cause I'm not home yet. We decided to do this coming weekend as a family and that I will be spending the night with them on Saturday night and we will be going to each others parents house.
Another topic was the past. W has said that she hasn't been happy and can't remember any past good times. The counselor suggested we write down happy memories and go over them. Instead of reading our list to each other we have decided to take turns each day texting one to each other and the calling and talking about it. Started two days ago, has been fun.
These last few weeks have been great. All of our contact has been very positive and I have seen a side of my W that I haven't seen for some time.
Of course it all can't be wine and roses. I asked my mom, dad and step mom about my W coming over for Easter and two of them said they would do it but wasn't happy with it. They said that they are angry with her still and don't want to be around her. They said that I have been treated bad and wasn't just going to forget about it. I told them that I understood their feelings but that this was my decision and that my family is a package deal. It has caused tension but they have backed off a bit and said that she is welcome. Today I called one of brothers to talk to him about my sitch and he told me that I talk about it to much and that the family is getting worn with me bringing it up all of the time. I do talk about it a lot but I thought that my family was my support group. Guess not.
