Am I on the right track?

[Hurt-but-Hopeful]

NEmoose - I feel like I relate a lot to the mixed messages & roller coaster as well. My sitch doesn't involve OW but H says he feels emotionally disconnected & done, but doesn't want this to "just be it", there's still a little hope, but he doesn't know if he has enough left in him. He seems honestly torn & doesn't know what to do. I think he's definitely in MLC.

I, too, am trying my best to detach (which I read someone on one of the threads say detach from the R not the person - I read too many to remember who) and not pursue, give him space and work on things FOR ME that make ME feel good about myself. It does sound like there are a lot of positives in your sitch. Patience is hard but that's what we have to have! Good luck!