I married after my 1st divorce and that is the marriage that landed me here....(the 2nd one...I don't do marriage well)

Cori and I are quite happily living together. It's not that we don't believe in marraige (we do)
but
we are as fully committed to one another as though we were and the tax hits we would take would cost around $10,000 a year....

not financially responsible to do so
this year, however, he will be adopting Nick (as Nick can petition the courts to change things up when he is 14) and Dylan will follow next year