You rock! That's exactly what you want to do, I think.
And I'm totally with you that it would be easier if I couldn't stand my W. Instead I spend all day fearing the return home... and then she's there, and we're laughing or working on the house together and it's just great except that she won't kiss me. She's even said "one of the few reasons I HAVEN'T actually divorced you is that I don't want to lose you as a friend."
And that it's-so-close-to-working-yet-it's-not-quite feeling is just absolutely TORTUROUS. We'll laugh at the same joke and I know in my heart that the woman I love is there under her own emotional walls and feel like I could just reach through them and touch her and hold her...
...but I can't.
...yet.
I still have hope. But like you, I mostly work on being the best me I can.
