Hey Islander... 'cause you, 9, and me all seem to be in similar sitches, I read comments on your's and 9's threads as though they are responses to me. It's been very helpful.
I found out one thing. Dropping the rope or detaching does not make you love her any less nor does it make you hope any less. What it DOES is allow you to get off a roller coaster of her making.
That's when you can be pro-active and not reactive. As country said, when there's contact, you can DB. If you've detached, then you can respond and DB in a positive way. And when you see things going bad, you can walk away and not feel bad about it.
