Hmm--came back projecting confidence from swing/salsa class ("Aw, you should come sometime--it's fun!") and got a few laughs out of her, then watched a movie together; during the day she coordinated repairs to our hot tub as if she was planning on staying. It's so close to being a functional relationship... and going much better since I stopped pleading/crying where she could tell, etc. But jeez, I still break down where she CAN'T see, so I'm clearly not "there" yet, and she still feels "trapped" as if staying would be losing whenever the subject comes up.
But I seize any small victory and cheer. Privately.
Still can't find my DR book. Where the heck did I put it? I could swear it was on my desk...