I don't know if I've ever posted to you before. I was reading your timeline. Sweetie, you've been through so much loss in such a short amt. of time!!!! Believe me, I know how that feels...the same thing happened to me. So many losses in the family, and then Boom! The bomb is dropped on top of everything else.
You are now divorced. You know what. That piece of paper is not going to make you feel any different today than you did yesterday or the day before. But it is a turning point. It does end the limbo. It does mark the beginning of something new and unchartered. Yes, you can still stand when you are divorced.
Getting a divorce doesn't mean all the feelings and memories go away. They can become more manageable with time, and as we start out on our own again..alone..perhaps for the first time in decades, those feelings will start to be stowed away in the back of our minds as we have to concentrate on so many new things.
I couldn't cry on the day of my divorce. I had cried so much in the months leading up to it, I think I had just dried the well up! If you have tears to shed, then by all means do it. If you don't, don't feel bad about that either. And if they sneak up on you in the months to come, let them. It's all normal, and it's all healthy.
We do support and understand you here, and there is no one here that is not offering compassion and sympathy. We just also like to offer what worked for us, because we so want to help you in your journey. Take our posts with a grain of salt, and if something helps you along the way, that's all we're hoping for...because there were plenty of posters here when we started our journey, and they helped us in the same way.
Be kind to yourself. Take time for yourself. Re-discover yourself. You'll like what you find.
Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible
