Won't stand for a broken family

[NEmoose43]

Hi Time...so sorry you've ended up on the roller coaster with the rest of us.

To answer your question, I don't think you backslid at all. He initiated both the hug and the R talk...maybe he just needed to get some stuff off his chest? My W has said a lot of the same kind of thing. "I'm afraid that if I let you back in and trust you, I'm just going to get my heart broken." And where I first would answer that kind of thing by begging for another chance and making all kinds of promises, now I just say that I'm afraid too, but the fact that we're both willing to try is all that really matters. I don't consider it backsliding at all, it really is validating and not trying to force your feelings about it onto your H.

I tried 5LL on my W last week as well. She didn't want to take the quiz, but I left a note on the book for her before she went back to her mom's house, and she took it with her. Not sure if she's reading it, but the fact that she even brought it gave me a ton of hope.

Dinner tonight sounds pretty typical actually, you had some positivity on Sunday, and there was a little bit of a bounceback today. I've learned to expect that. I've noticed that when W and I have a positive day, it seems to scare her. I think during those good moments, she starts to believe that maybe things really could work out and we could end up back together, but that frightens her when she has time to reflect on it because she's not sure if she wants to get back to being "us". Thus, the next interaction is a little more guarded or negative. Maybe that's what is going on with your H as well.

Well, hope that helps a little, keep reading and posting here. There are some amazing people on the forums, you're not alone in what you're going through.

Wishing you the best.