Sounds like H may be confused as to what he wants also. Not sure it sounds like you are making baby steps yet though. Sounds more like a rollercoaster and maybe you need to pull away. Regroup yourself and concentrate more on you and relationship basics - like rebuilding a friendship. I know the anniversary is important - ours was shortly after we seperated also. But I wish we would have done nothing because we tried to go to a football game and it wasnt a very memorable. Fought for most of the carride there. Just not a good way to spend a day that should be special. Sometimes it may be better to keep relationship talks to a minimum also. Especially if they cause arguments. Those arguments only set you back and they dont seem to forget them. Concentrate on being positive, keeping yourself busy, and trying to stay sane and patient - which is the hardest part. Keep telling yourself you ultimate goal that your marriage is worth fighting for. He will notice the changes and then you will start to notice the babysteps.
