How much longer in Separated?

[jon2911]

That's OK GF. Thanks for the advice River and Michelle. This is the big question right now and the reason I'm so down. It feels like some really big steps need to be taken and I probably won't like the outcome.

Really good talks with W on Friday night and Sunday night. I guess that's several Sundays in a row now. We talked about how she's enjoying it in New York, went to SIL's church. She texted me during the day asking for help with Powerpoint for SIL.

We started talking about job stuff, and I mentioned being swamped with my full-time job and my clients on the side. She asked if I could get all of my full-time job done during 9-5. I told her no, not right now. She said "I don't want to see you being 35 and still making that." I told her not to worry about it. She had an idea, to ask for a higher salary in 6 months, and if he can't do that, then ask for profit-sharing of some kind. She asked about sales and traffic and I said we're up 50% from this month last year. That is huge. She came across a little controlling, but I stayed upbeat and it's definitely something to chew on.

I had lunch with a friend today about moving in with me. He's a very cool guy and runs the music studio at my school. He's interested and will come check the place out Thursday. I've avoided getting a roommate all this time, even though W has had a few. I always wanted to keep the place and make it perfect for her to come back. And I'd still prefer that, but the loneliness is really getting to me and this might work out well. I feel like it's giving up and moving on, but not necessarily. It's just best for me right now.

My first stance on the D was that it's just paperwork. I even mentioned that to W. My C has me thinking a little differently. He also mentioned that as I pull back and don't pursue, I'm giving her a chance to come closer. That it shows strength. DBing 101 again. He also said all indications, apart from a few things she's mentioned, are that this is headed to D. I don't feel that way, or that it's even LRT time yet. Am I completely off? Anyone here feel free to chime in, these comments are so helpful.

To answer your question River, I don't know if it would work. Michelle, you're right, I need to decide this for myself and communicate it to her.

One day at a time.