Yes, he is fully aware of what I know. I try to keep it under wraps what my current opinion is of things, but I do discuss her somewhat openly in front of him. I collect facts in the most matter-of-fact way that I can without throwing in any nasty comments or anything like that. I'm not sure why he's so keen on changing jobs in that I don't know if he's doing it to please me, or be away from her, or if he just wants a new job (it's not out of the norm for him to change positions every 12 to 18 months. He literally started in the mail room at this company 6 yeras ago and just last month received a huge govt clearance to work on big projects). He still insists that nothing physical has ever happened, and he doesn't even really think he's had an EA. But again, actions speak louder than words. Pictures really speak....
He texted me this morning asking if I wanted to talk on my lunch break. I asked if there was anything in particular he wanted to discuss, and he said, "no, just wanted to chat with you."
Apparently he's quite ill. I guess he's having allergies or something. He sounded terrible on the phone. He didn't ask much about me during our conversation, but it was brief (he was in between meetings) and mainly focused on these potential new positions as I knew nothing about them and he wanted my input. We started to launch into a converstaion about Brother, but I told him I knew he needed to go and asked if he wanted to discuss that matter later tonight. He said that would be great and told me to call whenever it was convenient for me (since the bomb, he's been setting the time, so this was a nice change of pace). I told him I'd call him after yoga.
I can't tell what's going on. Clearly we are having more communication. Clearly it's a better quality of communication. Clearly he's asking things about me specifically and initiating topics.
But I still just question the motives. Is he doing this because he's genuinely interested in me and moving towards reconcilation (or at least the idea of it), or is he asking because he feels guilty and is wanting to make sure everything is ok before he really cuts ties?
Hopefully I will get some clarity when he's home. It goes back to the "believe nothing of what they say and only 50% of what they do". It's easier to judge actions and their behavioral function when he's here.
This is mean, but I hope he's got awful allergies from being in Cali. His symptoms sound like allergies. He's never had them in his life. Give him a dose of what I deal with several times a year (which he has NEVER been very empathetic about. In fact always gave me hell over being sick all the time and wanting to sleep and not having enough fun when I was like that). Now try flying on a plane feeling like that. Have fun, honey.
