Not sure where i heard this but "distances always dredges up feelings to bring people closer"
The way i see it: Next's wife wanted the D. Now she has it. She has to understand that D means that all that was is no more. Only then she might miss him and figure out if what was done is right or wrong. Yup, what if she realizes that she screwed up and wants to get back. Then she has to overcome that wall of stubbornness/ego that made her adamant to get the D in the first place.
2Step though i say the above, i am pretty sure i too might be hounding my soon to be X to re-consider, instead of dropping the rope on her for a while
BITS M 38 W 36 D 7 Married 15 yrs W left for 6 months in 2009 W Filed for D 01/03/11 piecing now...