I don't remember my L ever saying that there could be an issue with the custodial accounts, they are for the kids benefit and not yours. I think they just wanted to make sure I wasn't withdrawing from them.
Sad fact was that I owed so much when all was said and done that it was all forgiven without me having to sell anything. It is a bitter pill to swallow but things are looking up. I believe I am much better financially than I had been in all the years we were married except maybe the first few. You will get there. Wait a weight off my shoulders.
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Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory