Cyrena, I absolutley consider a possible MLC. Even some of the things that he has said over the last few months has been carbon copy of something an MLCer would say. Unfortunately doesn't really change my approach. I just found on his FaceBook page that he is interested in.....Women. Wow, doesn't even try to hide it at this point. Will tell me "I don't know" when I ask him if he wants a divorce, a separation, etc but he is actively looking for OW. Such a sense of total loss right now. I don't even think it would do any good to even say anything to him about any of it at this point.I will get accused of spying, and he would just deny it anyway. He just believes that his happiness will come in the absence of me and our marriage, almost to the point where he acts like he can't stand me in spite of how nice I am being and how tolerable of his behavior I am being. Nothing really has happened to "trigger" it except for a possible change in brain chemistry. He has a tumor on his pituitary gland that is quite large and has suffered from headaches for 20 years. He is on medication that has stopped his headaches and changed the hormone levels in his body including increasing his testosterone. Don't know if that has anything to do with it or not. He just says we are not compatible and never have been and he is tired of a mediocre marriage. He has re-written history and blames it all on me. Sound pretty typical??????? I don't think I will ever understand what is happening/has happened. That is the hardest part I think.
