Jon, I agree with River 100%. It sounds like W was testing the waters. My H has said to me twice now that he is relocating. The first time was a few months after we separated. Claimed he was moving to NY. I just said "Oh, that's good, maybe you'll be happier there." At the time I didn't want him to move but for some reason I wasn't as upset or afraid he would do it as I am now.
Now, he is saying that he wants the D finalized by June or July because he is relocating and wants to make a better life for himself (umm, he had a good one with me and the kids). He was in the angry stage (2 weeks ago tomorrow), so now I don't know what to believe. This time for some reason it hurt more this time. Anyway, I can't imagine him leaving his family. So I don't know if I should believe him or he is just saying this to get a reaction out of me. All I said was "How can you do that to D14? Wait how can you do that to all 3 of your kids?" His answer to our D14 was "Oh well", and I almost fell over when he answered the second question by saying the same thing "Oh well."
I didn't say anything after that....he has been stuck to his 2 sons like glue since they are old enough now to drive etc. He hangs out with them like he is their friend instead of their father.
Enough about me, sorry for going on and on. But Jon, my point is that your W isn't picking her family over you, I think she is really confused. Where as my H is picking his family over me and the kids. The kids don't even hear from any of my in-laws and since his parents are D'd and remarried I have 2 sets of in-laws. I tried to make peace with them for the kids sake but never heard a word back.
River, I would love for you to read my thread and give me your intake on what you think about my sitch. Sorry Jon for high jacking while answering to your thread.
