That is the big question isn't it. I don't know what I want to do. I have been "acting as if" for about 8 weeks now and he seems to be getting angrier and angrier, almost like I make his skin crawl when I am around. I guess it could be that I am standing in the way of his freedom although he has always been free to leave. I am contemplating a 180 and doing a combination of going dark and GAL but I am afraid that will drive us even further apart. I am at least trying to keep some sort of connection with him. At the very least I am buying time I suppose by making him feel a bit guilty by my "niceness". I don't want things based on guilt, but just want to slow down the process a little to make sure he isn't leaping to divorce too quickly.
8 weeks is a good chunk of time. What have you done with this time that you bought?
Have you met with a good family law atty yet, to better understand what your rights and responsibilities are, just as a precaution? What is your financial situation (who pays for what / how vulnerable are you?), etc.?
You don't have to DO anything, but you SHOULD be using this time to PLAN.
As for you "making his skin crawl," try to think of it this way: he's an addicted, there's OW that he's addicted to, and you are standing in between him and his stash.
That's sad, but it's pretty much what the dynamics are. He's also probably not happy with himself, nor his own choices, and you are a mirror to him and he doesn't like himself when he sees his image.
