My anniversary is this week. I am planning to use this as an opportunity to show my positive changes. I'm going to make dinner something I usually don't do. Then I will make a little present based on something she found cute. (trying to show I'm paying attention. ) As of now we go out a lot to dinner, and on valentines day when she was on WAW overdrive she accepted my elaborate valentines day scheme. So I think it should be ok. I would come up with a simple yet thoughtful plan, then "invite her" to join you.
I agree about your assessment on her using a no plans approach to say that it further proves the futility of the marriage. So yes, you DO have to do something. She will most likely react negatively, but she will notice that you still care. If she gets hostile control yourself and simply say "it's no problem I just wanted to do something nice" and then let it go. If she agrees, smile and try to have a nice night. No R talk!!!!
