Baffling night... had a great long conversation about philosophy of heroism in literature, wound up talking about her research in leadership and such... got good chances to compliment her in a non-relationship way and such... but still definitely got a "eh, it's like I'm talking to a friend or associate" vibe.
Holy smoke, this is hard. Now going to go off and read "His Needs, Her Needs" to see if it's helpful (I'm a'goin' through the literature; chewed through several Gottman books, Chapman, now this, and STILL can't find my vanished copy of DR... no idea where that puppy is hidden but I didn't make it all the way through before losing it; may wind up buying a second copy).
One thing's for sure, I'm going to make someone a fantastic husband after all this. Just hope it's the right person (and that I don't crack the other way and get bitterly cynical about marriage for the rest of my life...)
