WAW tearing up our family part II

[ironMan]

Just to get caught up on recent events ..... this weekend she stopped wearing her ring again. I didn't say anything.

On Saturday, she told me she was going to stay at her mom's for a night or two to see how the baby did. I asked "what does it matter? you're not doing this to help her sleep well"

She got mad, said I was mean, said I hadn't changed at all, and said I was an [censored].

I said above in a very calm voice ... and wasn't being snotty about it. I was just stating that D was going to have to get used to life like this. And if D didn't sleep well there, that wouldn't change W's plans.

But, she has always, always hated being wrong. And, I haven't done it often ..... but I do occasionally remind her that this isn't what I want, but understand it is what she feels is necessary. And she gets angry .... she doesn't want to feel like the bad guy. She keeps bringing up how Karma is getting her for splitting up her family too.

She then said I would need to sign some documents spelling out arrangements and we need to discuss who will pay what bills and some other details. I let her know I wasn't interested in helping her figure any of this out. And I told her, that this was her project not mine. I had no interest in planning the destruction of my family.

So, I haven't mentioned any of that since. Now, time for my plan that I have been working on since the separation. I'm going DARK. Only communication between us will be regarding D.

So, time to be a great dad
Be a friend to W, when W calls me
Go live my own life. Stay busy ... keep with my new martial art .... get a racing go kart ... keep going out with colleagues.

I'm going to have a lot of fun ... but know I will be sad at times too.