Totally agree with Staci. If you think it might help, why not?
My W and I have talked about forgiveness quite a bit since we both have EA's that we're trying to get past. She told me that in her IC, she told her counselor that she thought forgiving meant "giving up"...YIKES. She asked me what I thought it meant. I told her it was not an emotion, it was a choice. And it means using the past to make the future better...not forgetting what has happened, but learning from it. She actually liked that, but said that my ability to forgive so quickly made her feel like a terrible person...and honestly, I took that as a hopeful sign for us.
So, that being said, why not say that you read the book and it gave you a lot of insights, both about yourself and your relationship. Say I'd like you to read it if you get a chance. I did the same thing with 5LL last week, and I saw that W had it in her purse yesterday. Not sure if it'll work in your sitch, but hey, whatever works right?
BITS M: 35 W: 27 T 7.5 years M 5 years No kids My EA: 3/08 Her EA: 1/11, discovered 3/11 (ongoing?) ILYBINILY, D mentioned 3/8/11 W at parents house: 4/16/11
